Men confesses: pros and cons sex toys! Sex toys, taboo for some and for others occasional pleasure, sex shops are present in all sites and all sites of its kind, offering visitors the different performance depending on the type, size, speed, texture, etc. Say you want because, contrary to expectations, not only women use sex toys but men. What I want to know is when and how open are men when it comes to sex toys. I use it often, you accept occasional deems necessary or reject his presence in their bed? I received interesting answers from 6 men and definitely will help you to understand better what is going on in their minds when they see or hear talk of sex toys.
“Toys are the salt and pepper in our sex life. I use it occasionally with my girlfriend, I admit I was reluctant at first, but later I saw things differently. I trust myself and manage to make the difference between them and their effect on the effect My on it. “ Chris, 29 years.
So, as a man, although it is possible to get a sense contradictory at first try later or accept sex toys like any spice in the bedroom or gradually accept them for the sake of the beloved. One thing is certain: you have no problem with them.
“I do not understand boom that occurs among women when it comes to sex toys. It seems to become fashionable for women to have such a toy, as it may be small or odd. I find that risk to fall into the highly and always do your comparisons between performance and performance toy man next to you. “ Jack, 34 years.
Obviously, there are many men who think sex toys at the outset a threat to their virility and ability to sexually satisfy a woman, totally rejecting the idea that they can be “replaced” temporary or “fill” of such occasional pleasure.
“We have a relationship for 9 months and recently showed me her sex toys: a vibrating ring for him (to me now) and a double-headed dildo for her. I was delighted, even, for the moment, I ‘I lost sex drive. it was as if I had said, gestures, ‘what you do in bed is not enough for me, should be better, etc.‘ Plus I do not even give me crazy about hardcore sex, should it be their already realized that. ” Alex, 32 years.
If you submit your sex toy proud, especially a vibrator (for it is most suggestive substitute penis), it is possible to submit the message “Your device does not satisfy me.” The message will be received as a direct hook in male pride, especially if you are not much time together and you do not know well enough sexual preferences. One thing is certain: it is not wrong to want more from your sex life, nor to tell what and how you would like, but you must be careful how you choose to tell all this, not misunderstand.
“At first, I admit that I felt intimidated and annoyed at the same time, the presence of sex toys in her bedroom. Later, we moved together and began to accept them as part of her sexual preferences. I was very skeptical about their usefulness, now regard them as part of our sex life without having to make too much of it and admit them without ever can accept 100%. ” Mike, 31 years.
So you can get over rejection reaction from the beginning in favor of a more permissive approach. It is an attitude of means, like “you accept that you like, but that does not mean I feel very comfortable when using them.”
“A few months ago, while fixed lovemaking me to the toy he had just bought. My reaction? I stepped aside and I told her to try it another time. And then , we used only once. I do not like and that’s it, that’s the case and you should accept it. Even so bad I can manage to have to be complemented by a plastic battery? ” Katalin, 30 years.
Communication is say the word again. Only you can tell communicating, inter alia, sexual preferences and limits Partner / her. Otherwise, get to such embarrassing moments and unexpected reactions.
“In my use sex toys worked with the opposite effect, but beneficial: helped me realize what I had to offer during sex and I need to be more attentive to her needs. I can say that I understood everything so well that now you no longer use. no matter how interesting and exciting it is, does not compare with chemistry and intimacy between me and her. “ Adi, 27 years.
Interesting how, according to each man separately, sex toys can be threats, aphrodisiac, accepted pleasures for the sake partner or even an aid in regaining self-confidence and understanding their sexual needs.
The conclusion is clear: There will not be big changes for the better in terms of mentality masculine nor feminine emancipation serious when it comes to sex toys.
Women will continue to try, sometimes unsuccessfully, moral or social overcoming limitations and men vehemently reject or accept, willingly or need sex toys.